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From: jer@peora.UUCP (J. Eric Roskos)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: second tries
Message-ID: <996@peora.UUCP>
Date: Wed, 29-May-85 09:19:15 EDT
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Posted: Wed May 29 09:19:15 1985
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> ... a good friend of mine has split up with and gotten back together again
> with the same man at least three times. ... It seems they can't live
> without each other but they can't quite figure out how to live with each
> other either.
>
> Has anyone else personally ... known of others who have [had a similar
> experience]?

Yes!  For many years I had a good friend who had exactly this problem.

It's my belief that in this case, the people continue to get back together
largely motivated by simple human needs.  People need human companionship;
and this other person, who isn't terribly compatible, nevertheless provides
that; but that is all the person provides, and thus the relationship doesn't
go anywhere.

This is not to be confused, though, with the other common situation, in which
a person becomes so familiar that one forgets how important they are, and
comes to believe that they are unimportant, therefore.  What you are
describing sounds like the former case, though, not the latter.
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