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From: woods@hao.UUCP (Greg Woods)
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Subject: Re: Too much to ask?  -- a potentially damaging misconception
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Date: Mon, 3-Jun-85 13:24:20 EDT
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Posted: Mon Jun  3 13:24:20 1985
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Scott sums up our comments thusly:

> Greg:  the problem is the exclusivity.  You shouldn't want her exclusively;
> you should give her the space she needs/wants.  Stop being jealous.
> 
> Scott:  the problem is the pair.  It's okay to want exclusive relationships--
> monogamy has a long and hoary tradition--but you're not going to find
> it with this woman.  You'll have to look elsewhere for "Miss Right," and
> decide whether to keep this woman as a friend or not.  Give up on her.

  There is no contradiction here, really. If exclusivity is *that* important,
then you are right that he should give this woman up. My point was merely
that by focusing on exlusivity, he could be keeping himself from a lot of
wonderful experiences. I too eventually want an exclusive relationship. I just
don't expect *every* relationship I enter into to be that way. It takes *time*
for that commitment level to develop. As it happens, things seem to be changing
significantly in my case. More news later on this NBS (Net Broadcasting System)
station.

--Greg
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