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From: phaedrus@eneevax.UUCP (Pravin)
Newsgroups: net.women,net.nlang.india
Subject: Re: Arranged Marriages Questions
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Date: Thu, 6-Jun-85 08:33:49 EDT
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Umm...I am not an expert on the topic (having lived here most of my life)
but, I have talked to my parents (who had an arranged wedding) about it.

My mom claims that to a certain extent arranged marriages are more fun
and end up a lot more successful than `love' marriages because:

1)  One has very few expectations, so one is usually very adjusting.

2)  Most of the fun (initially anyway) is finding out about each other
    (ie, getting to know each other).

And because one has very few expectations, I guess you accept the other
person easily.  Of course, I am not talking about the 100,000 rupee dowry
cases...there, somebody is expecting a hell of a lot.

Finally, the traditional and cultural aspect of the whole thing.  This
thing has been going on for (I presume) thousands of years and it's
probably built into many people's psyche.  If one is brought up in an
environment where that is the norm, one isn't going to change his point
of view just because he is `educated'.  Anyway, I don't think that
education and arranged marriages are mutually exclusive.

Rambled a bit...sorry.

-- 
			Pravin Kumar

Don't bother me! I'm on an emergency third rail power trip.

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