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From: sunil@ut-ngp.UUCP (Sunil Trivedi)
Newsgroups: net.women,net.nlang.india
Subject: Re: Arranged Marriages (another response)
Message-ID: <1801@ut-ngp.UUCP>
Date: Sat, 8-Jun-85 06:41:22 EDT
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Posted: Sat Jun  8 06:41:22 1985
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> From: S.Ganapathy <ganpaty> Sat Jun  8 00:34:29 1985
> To: sunil@ut-ngp.ARPA	{...!ut-sally!ut-ngp!sunil}
> Subject: your letter to net.nlang.india & net.women about getting a wife.
> Status: R
>
> Dear Sunil,
>     This is my response to your letter regarding getting a wife. To me the    
> the wording does not sound good. Looks like one is shopping around for a com-
> modity such as a car or any other thing you can think of. The reason why ar-
> ranged marriages are still in vogue is that the chances of their working or not
> is the same as that of love marriages.Remember just by being in love may be
> a necessary but may not be a sufficient condition for the man and woman to
> know each other fully well. Do not forget that the arranged marriages are not 
> forced upon the man or woman by their families as one might incline to think.
> I agree that in arranged marriages there is insufficient opportunity for the 
> man and woman to know and objectively assess each others compatability or 
> otherwise.  May be in a love marriage such oppurtunities abound but once again
> that does not guarantee the success of love marriages too.  
> Have you heard the saying that love is blind/blinding ?  I am not trying to
> defend arranged marriages.  The most important thing that makes a marriage is
> the attitude of the couple.  Arguements such as: Oh! Have I made a mistake?,
> I deserve better than this,  may be I can give it another try? There definite-
> ly must be a better match and so on and so forth are guarantees to dig the
> grave of matrimony.   Well Sunil these are some thoughts that your letter
> provoked in me.  If you want you are free to put them on net.
> Well I don't intend to bore you any more. Would be interested in your response
> to my thinking.
>                                                        Take care. 
>                                                        Gany.
>

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							Sunil Trivedi