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From: linda@amdcad.UUCP (Linda Seltzer)
Newsgroups: net.women,net.nlang.india
Subject: Re: Arranged Marriages Questions
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Date: Wed, 12-Jun-85 19:28:01 EDT
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Summary: Relationship with parents

As an American reading this newsgroup, it was interesting to hear the
comment "who can understand you better than your parents?".

If the son or daughter gets along well with the parents, then
an arranged marriage does not sound like a bad idea.  The parents
might know some very nice people.  However, if the young person does
not get along well with the parents, then problems could most
probably occur.  In my own life in the U.S. I was always interested
in the arts professionally and my parents completely opposed it.
Of course, my friends are always people who love the arts,
and my parents hated such people.  The thought of an arranged
marriage would be a disaster.  I have a friend who comes from a
family in which many of the people are in medical professions -
M.D., physical therapist, etc.  He met his wife through his sister,
and his wife was also in a medical profession.

I wonder whether arranged marriages mean that wealthy people
always marry each other and low income people always marry each other.
For people who come from a low income or less educated family,
in this country
one looks forward to the opportunity to marry someone who might
be a little better off or who has more education.