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From: sridhar@tekig5.UUCP (S. Sridhar)
Newsgroups: net.nlang.india
Subject: Arranged marriages
Message-ID: <103@tekig5.UUCP>
Date: Mon, 17-Jun-85 15:31:51 EDT
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Posted: Mon Jun 17 15:31:51 1985
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I think part of the reason why some people don't go in for love
marriages is :

   1) the fear of causing social upheavals in the family.
   2) the fear of facing extreme ostracism from family members
       and relatives.
   3) the fear that it may be a source of 'embarrasment' for the
       parents et. al.
   4) the fear of being disowned.
   5) reluctance to face the aftermath which may reach cataclysmic
      proportions. This is especially true in orthodox, religous and
      extremely conservative families.


Sohail Hussain's point that it takes a finite time to fall in love etc.
is well taken, but I fear that it is parenthetical to the issue. I can
cite any number of instances where love and affection  between two
potential spouses has succumbed to filial pressure.


Sridhar
Portland, Ore.