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From: pmd@cbscc.UUCP (Paul Dubuc)
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Subject: Re: Premarital Sex
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Date: Thu, 13-Jun-85 09:11:04 EDT
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>...
>The question is prompted by some of the questions raised by some
>folks about "arranged marriage" vs. "love marriage" etc.
>Some opponents of "arranged marriage" (opponent is the key word here)
>have questioned the "educatedness" of some of us poor blokes who are
>dumb enough to allow our parents a say in our life after we have
>reached puberty (read that as enlightenment).

Allowing parents to have a *say* isn't dumb.  Their experience can
help you from making some big mistakes.  When someone talks about
"arranged marriage", however, I think of it as parents telling you
who you *will* marry.  Parents who don't allow their offspring more
of a say in their own lives as they mature are selling their kids short.

>Wonder how people feel about premarital sex. Someone compared arranged
>marriages to "shopping" as in shopping for a car. Am I allowed to
>extend the analogy to say that premarital sex feel like "test driving"
>the car?
>Deepak S. Sabnis ...!{ihnp4,hplabs,amd,nsc}!amdahl!dss00    (408) 746-6058

I'm not sure how arranged marriage compares to shopping.  Who's doing
the shopping?  But premarital sex defintely isn't analogous to "test
driving".  There's a little more to marriage than sex, I think.  Good
sex doesn't make good marriage.  It's more like the other way around.
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Paul Dubuc 	cbscc!pmd