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From: spaf@gatech.CSNET (Gene Spafford)
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Subject: Re: Intelligence
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Date: Wed, 5-Jun-85 01:05:34 EDT
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Summary: 

(I've said this here before, but many of the readers of this group
aren't familiar with the "good old days" when I posted beaucoup articles.
For those of you who've seen this -- my apologies for the rerun.)

Let me start off by pointing out that intelligence is hard to identify.
There are many different kinds of intelligence, and some people have
more of one than another.  Grades, test scores, problem solving ability --
these measure limited forms of intelligence, if they measure any at all.
Be careful who you label as intelligent and who you label as not.

With that out of the way, let me note that I am one of those
"intelligent" people, at least as far as all the tests I've taken have
shown.  I always was a bit of an outcast because of it, and I had a
really difficult time socially during my pre-college years.  I didn't
fit in as an undergrad, either.  As a grad student I've sort of found
my own level and am involved with others at the same approximate level,
and I am very comfortable in this environment (perhaps too much so).

Romance is difficult when you look for intelligence approximating your
own.  I mean, physical attraction is nice, but I do need a break now
and then {:-)} and being able to talk with someone I consider an
equal is a must for a healthy long-term relationship.  Finding
intelligent women with complimentary interests isn't always easy
in an academic environment.  So, I looked elsewhere -- I joined
Mensa.  It's not an elitist group as some would charge.  It is simply
a group of people with something in common who get together to form
a social environment that offers a break from the workday environment.
Members have only one thing in common -- they scored in the top 2%
on some standardized intelligence test.  That doesn't mean that they're
more intelligent than anyone else, it just means they did well on
those tests (see the second paragraph).

In short, I met a lot of very nice (and some very crazy) people, including
a number of attractive, intelligent, amusing women.  In fact, one of them
is living with me now and we're getting married this fall (after I finish
my degree {if I finish my degree}).  At least 3 other couples have met
through the group and married or posslq'd in the last 2 years.

If you're not willing to settle for less than you think you deserve, and
if you think you deserve the best, it might be worth checking out.
If you want more info, drop me a note.

-- 
Gene "3 months and holding" Spafford
The Clouds Project, School of ICS, Georgia Tech, Atlanta GA 30332
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