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From: gregbo@houxm.UUCP (Greg Skinner)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: What people look for in MOTAS (conceit, actually)
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Date: Thu, 6-Jun-85 09:44:24 EDT
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Posted: Thu Jun  6 09:44:24 1985
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>	Yes, but how many friends does the average person have?
>Relying on old friendships to grow into romantic attachments
>reduces the selection pool too much.  And risks destroying
>good friendships.

I have this same problem.  I have some good female friends, but I don't want
to start romantic attachments with them, because the breakup might destroy
the friendship.  I value the friendships I have and I wouldn't want to see
them go away.  Also, sometimes I might want to become romantically involved
with might not want to be romantically involved with me, that leads to hurt
feelings on their part, since they didn't want to hurt me, which leads to all
sorts of guilt and confusion and .... so that's why I'm concerned about 
starting a romantic relationship with a good friend.  (I hope I don't get too
flamed for this -- it's only natural to want to keep the friends you have --
I've heard it said that you never lose a true friend but I wouldn't want to
introduce guilt feelings into a friendship nevertheless.)
-- 
It's like a jungle sometimes, it makes we wonder how I keep from goin' under.

Greg Skinner (gregbo)
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