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From: regard@ttidcc.UUCP (Adrienne Regard)
Newsgroups: net.singles,net.social
Subject: Intelligence
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Date: Thu, 6-Jun-85 17:14:55 EDT
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>You said it. I was one of those at the upper end of the SAT scores in high
>school, and it took tremendous effort to be invited (or even considered) to
>any social functions. It wasn't a cruel crusade or anything -- it was just an
>attitude of "well, I didn't think you'd be interested." Girls did not want to
>be seen with "a brain"; they'd rather be seen with "a jock".

Well, speaking from the female point of view, I was at the upper end of SAT
scores, too, and I was not invited places because that was intimidating.
(Plus, my social skills left something to be desired, I'm sure).  The jocks
wouldn't go out with me because many had trouble understanding English, and
the smart guys were so downtrodden because the cheerleaders turned up their
noses that they didn't have the guts to ask me either.  I asked guys out as
often as I was asked out, and I wasn't ever turned down, either (in high
school.  I has some setbacks in college).  I can remember having a good
time, and not caring about being "seen" with the people I wanted to spend
some time with.

You shoulda realized then what I did -- there are plenty of fish in the sea --
interesting fish at that. "Girls" in the sense used above means really one
specific group of females who had a specific sense of values that didn't
include you.

>Now that I'm through college and in the "real world", I have to say that the
>same intelligence which caused me social problems in high school have enabled
>me to get a well-paying job doing something I enjoy. So in that respect,
>perhaps, I DO have it better than less intelligent people who had to settle
>for something less. Now. But I've only had one steady girlfriend in six years,
>and that for only four months. So I would not say I've had it all that much
>"better" or "easier" -- emotional support is as necessary as financial
>support.

There is something dangerous in believing your situation doesn't have it's
counterpart in the females of the world, and not trying to find those
females who feel similarly to you.  Why do I get the feeling you are still
missing the wealth of the population pool?  (Not trying to put words in
your mouth here -- trying for clarification).

Adrienne Regard