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From: wfi@rti-sel.UUCP (William Ingogly)
Newsgroups: net.singles,net.social
Subject: Re: Intelligence
Message-ID: <238@rti-sel.UUCP>
Date: Sat, 8-Jun-85 15:36:14 EDT
Article-I.D.: rti-sel.238
Posted: Sat Jun  8 15:36:14 1985
Date-Received: Mon, 10-Jun-85 21:41:55 EDT
References: <456@ttidcc.UUCP> <457@ttidcc.UUCP> <1586@hao.UUCP>
Reply-To: wfi@rti-sel.UUCP (William Ingogly)
Organization: Research Triangle Institute, NC
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Summary: 

In article <1586@hao.UUCP> woods@hao.UUCP (Greg Woods) writes:

>          ...  Have you ever even *tried* dating a woman who doesn't score 
>as high as you did on those IQ tests? And even if you did, and had a bad
>experience, does that necessarily mean it could *never* work out with someone
>like that? It seems to me that *any* selection criteria that eliminates 98%
>of the candidates is self-defeating. It sounds to me like you have a belief
>about what people who score lower than you on IQ tests are like, and you are
>unwilling to open your mind up to being wrong about it, even to the point
>of eliminating 98% of women as possibilities. ...

Someone whose main criterion for finding friends (romantic or not) is that
their capabilities and interests closely match his/hers is going to find 
himself/herself alone more often than not. I agree that this attitude is
self-defeating, for I was guilty of it myself in my younger years.

Qualities like empathy, enjoyment of athletic activities, enjoyment of
music, a sense of humor, and so on have little to do with IQ scores
and are MUCH more important in relationships than things like
mathematical and spatial skills. See how much your knowledge of
quantum mechanics helps you when your SO is tired or depressed and
needs comforting ...

But a caution is in order; someone who feels that broadening his
criteria for friendship is in some way lowering his standards has a
problem. He shouldn't abandon his search for the perfect, mirror-image
mate until he understands WHY it's a problem and is prepared to deal
with it.
                      -- Cheers, Bill Ingogly