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From: dsn@tove.UUCP (Dana S. Nau)
Newsgroups: net.singles,net.social
Subject: Intelligence (mild flame)
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Date: Sat, 8-Jun-85 01:53:11 EDT
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Posted: Sat Jun  8 01:53:11 1985
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In article <457@ttidcc.UUCP> hollombe@ttidcc.UUCP (The Polymath) writes:
>
>The problem you're overlooking is that having a high I.Q. can give a  whole
>new  meaning  to  "lonely  at the top".  I've scored well enough on various
>tests to qualify for membership in several  of  the  "high  IQ"  societies.
>The problem is not just finding women who want to go out with me, but  also
>finding women with whom I can interact on my level.

I think that's an excuse.  Some people with high IQ scores do tend to have
problems finding SO's, but I think that's more because they lack social
skills than because of a dearth of suitable partners.

Several years ago I agreed with your point of view, but I believe I was
fooling myself.  Things started working out a LOT better for me once I
started learning how to feel more comfortable around people, to value them
for who they were, and to stop being so hung up about how "smart" I was.
The same might be true for you.

>Looked at from this perspective, there aren't that many  fish  in  the  sea
>after  all,  at  least not useful ones.

That attitude is insidious because it's a self-fulfilling prophecy.  One is
much more likely to meet interesting people if one STARTS OUT with the
attitude that other people are interesting.

>Granted, there are high IQ type people who prefer  their  SOs  to  be  less
>intelligent  than they are.  They do have a wide population to choose from.
>For those of us who aren't intimidated by other people's brains and want to
>share our interests with our SOs, the choice is _much_ narrower.

Are you saying you aren't interested in someone unless her IQ score matches
yours?  That strikes me as a rather artificial criterion.  I know a woman
who has an uncanny ability to figure out what other people are like and what
they are thinking.  In terms of that particular ability, she is smarter than
I can ever hope to be--but that ability is NOT something that is ever
measured on an IQ test.
-- 
Dana S. Nau,  Computer Science Dept.,  U. of Maryland,  College Park, MD 20742
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