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From: dowding@bigburd.UUCP (John Dowding)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Good Friends
Message-ID: <2014@bigburd.UUCP>
Date: Fri, 7-Jun-85 18:27:04 EDT
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Posted: Fri Jun  7 18:27:04 1985
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I am curious about what people have to say about relationships that have
developed with MOTOS that they had previously been good friends with.
>From reading alot of net.singles, I have gotten the impression that it
tends to happen more often with people who dont consider themselves very
attractive (good-looking, strong, sociable, etc).  Do other people notice
this?

I have dated a fair number of women, but the relationships that lasted and
that I really enjoyed were all with women that I had been friends with, and
that I didnt expect would become lovers.  I can generalize over my somewhat
limited experience to say that:

1). These women had previously been my "beer-drinking buddies",
2). I didnt have to be "the aggressor",
3). I was always surprized at the time that a relationship was developing,
4). and these women did not think that they were very attractive.

These relationships have always ended with one or the other of us going away
(graduating, quiting, etc), never in anger, and some still remain very good
friends.  The flip side of this is women friends that I have that I would
have liked to have a deeper relationship with.  It can really kill a good
friendship to have expectations along these lines.  Does anybody else have
experiences like these?