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From: seifert@hammer.UUCP (Snoopy)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Friendship before/after SOship
Message-ID: <1323@hammer.UUCP>
Date: Sun, 9-Jun-85 12:50:19 EDT
Article-I.D.: hammer.1323
Posted: Sun Jun  9 12:50:19 1985
Date-Received: Wed, 12-Jun-85 20:01:58 EDT
References: <681@udenva.UUCP> <1560059@acf4.UUCP> <1264@houxm.UUCP> <244@azure.UUCP>
Reply-To: seifert@hammer.UUCP (Snoopy)
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Summary: 

In article <244@azure.UUCP> chrisa@azure.UUCP (Chris Andersen) writes:
>> I have some good female friends, but I don't want
>> to start romantic attachments with them, because the breakup might destroy
>> the friendship.
>	Another problem which I have observed is that when two members of 
>a group friends have a relationship, and then break, it almost inevitably
>destroys the group of friends along with it.  This is because the others
>in the group are forced to take sides.
>	In High School I saw this process of fission occur several times.
>The result being that out of 20+ people I knew in school, only 3 are still
>friends.

[ the preceding edited for brevity ]

Why is everyone so afraid of hurting friendships with romance?
What percentage of breakups are unfriendly?  I can't imagine
not remaining friends with an SO after a breakup.  If you like
a person as a friend, then add loving them as an SO, why should
the liking-them-as-a-friend go away if they don't work out as an SO?

A lot of people on the net seem to feel this way, so can someone
explain it?

Snoopy
tektronix!hammer!seifert

(new machine, not to worry, mako will forward)