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From: mms1646@acf4.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Friendship before/after SOship
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Date: Tue, 11-Jun-85 01:36:00 EDT
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Posted: Tue Jun 11 01:36:00 1985
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>/* seifert@hammer.UUCP (Snoopy) / 12:50 pm  Jun  9, 1985 */

>Why is everyone so afraid of hurting friendships with romance?
>What percentage of breakups are unfriendly?  I can't imagine
>not remaining friends with an SO after a breakup.  If you like
>a person as a friend, then add loving them as an SO, why should
>the liking-them-as-a-friend go away if they don't work out as an SO?

I don't understand it either.  I have this problem with a former SO.
I'd really like to be friends with her (not necessarily anything more),
but she won't even speak to me.  It's very frustrating because without
knowing why she has this attitude, which ostensibly was prompted by
things I said and did, I don't feel like I've learned much and I'm
likely to go on making the same mistakes.

						Mike Sykora