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Subject: Re: Intelligence (mild flame)
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Date: Tue, 11-Jun-85 00:59:00 EDT
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Posted: Tue Jun 11 00:59:00 1985
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>/* wfi@rti-sel.UUCP (William Ingogly) /  3:36 pm  Jun  8, 1985 */

>But a caution is in order; someone who feels that broadening his
>criteria for friendship is in some way lowering his standards has a
>problem. He shouldn't abandon his search for the perfect, mirror-image
>mate until he understands WHY it's a problem and is prepared to deal
>with it.
>                      -- Cheers, Bill Ingogly

It seems to me that there is a tradeoff between what you want and your
probability of getting it.  What I mean is that one should be trying to
maximize the expected value of one's SO (soory to be so coldly mathematical,
but this seems to me to be the intelligent way to make all decisions).  Since
the expected value is determined by subjective values in this case, and the
corresponding probabilities vary considerably from one individual to the
next, it is not clear that much can be said about this in a general way,
other than:  know  -- a) who you want, ..., who you're willing to settle for
		      b) how likely you are to succedd in each of these cases

						Mike Sykora