Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site ttidcc.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!bonnie!akgua!mcnc!philabs!ttidca!ttidcc!hollombe From: hollombe@ttidcc.UUCP (The Polymath) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: What people look for in MOTAS (breakups, actually) Message-ID: <469@ttidcc.UUCP> Date: Tue, 11-Jun-85 16:42:10 EDT Article-I.D.: ttidcc.469 Posted: Tue Jun 11 16:42:10 1985 Date-Received: Sun, 16-Jun-85 00:47:41 EDT References: <681@udenva.UUCP> <1560059@acf4.UUCP> <1264@houxm.UUCP> <244@azure.UUCP> Reply-To: hollombe@ttidcc.UUCP (The Polymath) Organization: The Cat Factory Lines: 26 Summary: In article <244@azure.UUCP> chrisa@azure.UUCP (Chris Andersen) writes: > > Another problem which I have observed is that when two members of >a group friends have a relationship, and then break, it almost inevitably >destroys the group of friends along with it. This is because the others >in the group are forced to take sides. ... > > In High School I saw this process of fission occur several times. I think the key words here are _High School_. These are the sort of actions and attitudes I'd expect of adolescents, not adults. I've watched a number of good friends break up over the years and never felt compelled to take sides. I remain on good terms with most of them. One time I was travelling through Europe with a couple who were in the final stages of breaking up (why is another story). The three of us remain friends to this day, though things did get a little tense and awkward at the time. Our assorted mutual friends are also all on good terms. -- -_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_- The Polymath (aka: Jerry Hollombe) Citicorp TTI "How goes the rat race?" 3100 Ocean Park Blvd. "The rats are winning." Santa Monica, CA 90405 -- Paul Lynde (213) 450-9111, ext. 2483 {philabs,randvax,trwrb,vortex}!ttidca!ttidcc!hollombe