Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/5/84; site tove.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!gamma!epsilon!zeta!sabre!bellcore!decvax!genrad!grkermi!panda!talcott!harvard!seismo!umcp-cs!tove!dsn From: dsn@tove.UUCP Newsgroups: net.singles,net.social Subject: Re: Intelligence (mild flame) Message-ID: <237@tove.UUCP> Date: Sat, 15-Jun-85 17:47:21 EDT Article-I.D.: tove.237 Posted: Sat Jun 15 17:47:21 1985 Date-Received: Mon, 17-Jun-85 20:17:51 EDT References: <456@ttidcc.UUCP> <457@ttidcc.UUCP> <228@tove.UUCP> <1466@watdcsu.UUCP> <446@unc.UUCP> Reply-To: dsn@tove.UUCP (Dana S. Nau) Organization: U of Maryland, Laboratory for Parallel Computation, C.P., MD Lines: 45 Xref: watmath net.singles:7351 net.social:671 In article <446@unc.UUCP> fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann) writes: >In article <1466@watdcsu.UUCP> herbie@watdcsu.UUCP (Herb Chong [DCS]) writes: >>>>I think that's an excuse. Some people with high IQ scores do tend to have >>>>problems finding SO's, but I think that's more because they lack social >>>>skills than because of a dearth of suitable partners. The above quote is incorrectly attributed. I authored it, not Herb Chong. >In article <228@tove.UUCP> dsn@tove.UUCP (Dana S. Nau) writes: >>>have you ever asked yourself why those people lack the social skills? >>>growing up being not part of the group makes it very hard to interact >>>with people when you're not allowed to belong. The above quote is also incorrectly attributed. I DIDN'T author it. >In article dsn@tove.UUCP (Dana S. Nau) writes: >>I don't disagree with that statement. But it's far more useful to >>work on IMPROVING one's social skills rather than lamenting the "slim >>pickings" one has without those skills. This one is attributed correctly. >I agree. Of course some people in this group (hint, hint, Greg and Dana) >believe that preparing for social encounters is a waste of time, and that >we should just "be spontaneous." > > Frank Silbermann Judging from your recent berating of Greg Woods for his dislike of opening lines, and your previous references to books on "how to pick up girls", etc., I suspect I "prepare for social encounters" in rather different ways than you do. Part of what "improving one's social skills" means to me is developing the ability to be both comfortable and spontaneous (in appropriate ways) in social situations. For me, at least, that doesn't involve memorizing opening lines. -- Dana S. Nau, Computer Science Dept., U. of Maryland, College Park, MD 20742 ARPA: dsn@maryland CSNet: dsn@umcp-cs UUCP: {seismo,allegra,brl-bmd}!umcp-cs!dsn Phone: (301) 454-7932