Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/17/84 chuqui version 1.7 9/23/84; site nsc.UUCP Path: utzoo!utcs!lsuc!pesnta!nsc!nessus From: nessus@nsc.UUCP (Kchula-Rrit) Newsgroups: net.singles,net.social Subject: Re: Intelligence (mild flame) Message-ID: <2867@nsc.UUCP> Date: Tue, 18-Jun-85 17:58:39 EDT Article-I.D.: nsc.2867 Posted: Tue Jun 18 17:58:39 1985 Date-Received: Thu, 20-Jun-85 03:45:32 EDT References: <1466@watdcsu.UUCP> <1435@mtx5b.UUCP> Organization: The Patriarchy of Kzin, Kzin Lines: 50 Xref: utcs net.singles:7252 net.social:650 >>>I think that's an excuse. Some people with high IQ scores do tend to have >>>problems finding SO's, but I think that's more because they lack social >>>skills than because of a dearth of suitable partners. >> >>have you ever asked yourself why those people lack the social skills? >>growing up being not part of the group makes it very hard to interact >>with people when you're not allowed to belong. >> >>from sad experience... >>Herb Chong... > > I'm coming to realize that this is true for me. I've always taken >great joy in understanding things. When I sat up one night at the begining >of 12th grade and read ahead in the calculus text, and discovered how limits >turn into derivatives, I was ecstatic. Suddenly my whole understanding of the >world had room to expand -- to explode. There's no way I could ever share that >with people. I'd be rejected out of hand -- and I have been. > > Fact is, I have so much anger and hurt stored up over this that sharing >simple things with the people around me is very painful. ... > > What we have is a chasm, seperating the emotional worlds of some >of us highly focused individuals from the emotional worlds of most others. >... > from Mole End Mark Terribile I have this "problem" also. The other people in my last "living" situation couldn't understand that/why I LIKE to play with computers until I fall asleep in my chair. They wanted me to "get away from all those machines and tech freaks and get out and meet some 'real people'". This was usually defined as going out to the bars where I, being basically a quiet and introverted type, would drink my brains out and generally be bored TO TEARS. For a long time I wondered what was wrong with me, but I came to the conclusion that I cannot be what other people want me to be unless it comes from inside. Now, the SO and I have a place to ourselves so we can do what we want without running up against the "herd mentality" that seems so rampant. Fortunately, SO has "come around" and doesn't mind me hacking around with the computer. At least computers don't leak oil that gets all over the house like cars do; I remember my brothers' prime interests all too well,although I sometimes wish they lived near me when the car acts up. This seems to be getting philosophical, so I should stop here... From the alter ego of-- Kchula-Rrit P.S. I've never (knowingly) taken an IQ test partly because I do not believe in them.