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From: regard@ttidcc.UUCP (Adrienne Regard)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: last night
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Date: Fri, 7-Jun-85 16:46:59 EDT
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Posted: Fri Jun  7 16:46:59 1985
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I find it interesting that very many men who have answered the "what to
do?" question re the jerk on the street calling out various nasty things
to the woman in the car have all urged response.

Isn't response presumably what the jerk is after?  Doesn't he therefore
get what he is looking for?  Isn't he therefore pleased with his action?

I have handled a similar incident by walking bang up to the guy and asking
him how he'd feel if that evening his son brought his girl friend home for
dinner to be introduced to his parents, and the girl friend happened to be
me.  The guy was non-plussed, though I have no way of knowing how it
affected any of his future behaviour.

However, it was also broad daylight, near a construction site, I was on
foot, there were plenty of people about and he wasn't a drunk.  So, this
course of action wouldn't have helped the lady in question at all.

Seems to me there are times when response can help (i.e., help the woman
deal with her response to the assault), but that isn't always so.  What
to do when responding with some "cute" line only creates more invective?
Short of chasing him with your car, I mean :-).

Adrienne Regard