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From: colonel@gloria.UUCP (Col. G. L. Sicherman)
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Subject: love and arranged marriages
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Date: Thu, 13-Jun-85 13:14:53 EDT
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["Will you love me in November as you do in May?"]

> By the way, ever wondered why the "arranged" marriages hold on while
> those based on "love" have a greater probability to breakup ?
> I think it is because when the basis of "love marriages" (i.e. LOVE)
> evaporates, so do the marriages. On the other hand the "arranged"
> marriages keep on going strong because they never were based on
> such fragile a thing as "love".

It's a strange sort of love that evaporates.  Ordinary love rises
and falls like breathing.  Anyway ... if their love has evaporated,
could not the partners simply pretend that the marriage was arranged?

I admit that this ignores the "Love Tao:" if you expect love, you'll
get an imitation of it; if you don't expect love, you will get it, but
you won't know you've got it.
-- 
Col. G. L. Sicherman
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