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From: dave@cmu-cs-cad.ARPA (Bharat Dave)
Newsgroups: net.women,net.nlang.india
Subject: Re: Arranged Marriages Questions
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Date: Fri, 14-Jun-85 18:53:20 EDT
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Posted: Fri Jun 14 18:53:20 1985
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Whoever told you that *love*  marriages are on the rise ? And what is 
wrong in being *educated* and not falling in love and into a marriage ?
Look around and check the divorce rate of those supposedly *love* 
marriages. There is no guarantee either which way, no matter who does 
the arranging.
	
As to why were the arranged marriages popular, traditionally, we had/have 
joint families. A new member *joins* a family whenever one of the family 
sons gets married and hence the family had the right to arrange. Besides, 
in the golden past, men and women believed in the wisdom of the elders ...
now I would not ask why ... do you ever wonder why people live as 
*companions*, as *partners*, and not get *married* ?
..... there, it was/is a way of life. 

*LOVE* has been a sparse commodity (check any cultural history), braced 
only by very privileged or very foolhardy ! That is history, not my view
of the world !! Wonder about THAT ! 

:: NO, I do not believe in arranged marriages, just that I do not think 
   there is anything *abnormal* in it, either.
		
					Bharat Dave
					dave@cmu-cs-cad.ARPA