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From: martin@cornell.UUCP (Susan Martin)
Newsgroups: net.kids
Subject: My first baby
Message-ID: <3484@cornell.UUCP>
Date: Mon, 29-Jul-85 13:31:57 EDT
Article-I.D.: cornell.3484
Posted: Mon Jul 29 13:31:57 1985
Date-Received: Wed, 31-Jul-85 20:23:58 EDT
Reply-To: martin@cornell.UUCP (Susan Martin)
Organization: Cornell Univ. CS Dept.
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Keywords: I'm so excited!


    I have recently learned that I'm going to be a mother!
I'm 28, single, and a lowly secretary.  Although I like to think I have
some emotional support from my SO, we currently live apart (my doing), and
he doesn't contribute anything financially.

    I'm really scared to death.  Since my salary is not that great at all,
I am finding it difficult figuring out how I can possibily afford this!
I have the support of my family and friends, all of whom are contributing
just about everything I'll need to get started.  

    Also, if I marry the baby's father, he'll have the right to tell me what
to do and how to bring up my child.  On the other hand, if I don't marry him,
he'll be under no legal obligation to help out, but also won't be able to tell
me how to do things.

    I would never be able to have an abortion at this point in my life, nor
would I give the child away to some needy couple.  The only good thing about
all this is the fact that Ithaca, NY seems to be as good a place as any to
bring up the child as a single parent with occasional help from the father.

    I am not really seeking advice, but would accept it if it were offered.
I just really wanted to express these thoughts on the net, and to let you
know that I now have a legitimate reason (if not a legitimite child!) for
reading this newsgroup!


Upstate New Yorkishly yours,

Susan A. Martin
a.k.a. SAM