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From: fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: More women than men
Message-ID: <620@unc.UUCP>
Date: Wed, 17-Jul-85 23:09:04 EDT
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Posted: Wed Jul 17 23:09:04 1985
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Reply-To: fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann)
Organization: CS Dept., U. of N. Carolina at Chapel Hill
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>> You both may agree not to date others.
>> However, this will not stop other men from *asking* you out.
>> Even without dating anybody else, you can get a good idea
>> of who else you could have if your current relationship ended,
>> just by noticing which men you turn down.

pooh@ut-sally.UUCP (Pooh @ the Utility Muffin Research Kitchen) writes:
>Again, Frank, I have to disagree.  Word gets around *FAST*,
>even in a new community, whether you're dating someone or not.
>Especially in small communities (like the net :-), once
>you are pegged as "seeing" someone in an other-than-platonic
>fashion, you are labeled as TAKEN, and only the boldest
>(or the ones who don't keep their ears to the ground) will
>risk asking you out.  And your email volume drops significantly. . .
>
>In some cases, it can be really hard to figure out whether
>someone is just not interested in you, or if s/he simply
>counts you as unavailable, so why bother?
>
>And some people out there may be seeing it as unkind of
>you to imply that women are on a constant lookout for
>a better bargain.  When I commit myself to someone, I
>don't look at other men I meet and think, "Let's see, which
>of these men could I start up with if I dump Herbie?"
>
>Ordinarily I like your ideas, Frank, but this one is
>treading a little too much on thin ice for me.

Not only that, but at least one person responded to me saying
that men can also shop around, simply by asking women on "safe"
dates (lunch, etc.) which "don't count".  All in all, I think
I blew it with this last posting.

	Frank Silbermann