Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site peora.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxt!houxm!ihnp4!qantel!hplabs!tektronix!uw-beaver!cornell!vax135!petsd!peora!jer From: jer@peora.UUCP (J. Eric Roskos) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Aggressiveness Message-ID: <1307@peora.UUCP> Date: Tue, 16-Jul-85 08:59:14 EDT Article-I.D.: peora.1307 Posted: Tue Jul 16 08:59:14 1985 Date-Received: Fri, 19-Jul-85 02:35:47 EDT References: <5557@cbscc.UUCP> <591@unc.UUCP> <854@ihlpg.UUCP> Organization: Perkin-Elmer SDC, Orlando, Fl. Lines: 29 > Yes!!! And I still haven't learned how to do it to my satisfaction (ie, > gently, but clearly--I tend to err on either side, and resulting situations > are not nice.) Hereagain, this is what your long-established social protocols are for. If somebody asks you to do something you don't want to do, you say, "I'm [so] sorry, I can't." You do this everytime they ask, without giving any reason or explanation which would allow them to manipulate your "excuse" into something else. [Here recently I have been advocating these "long established social protocols" a lot. It is strange that I should do this, given that the 16PF deems me "genuine but socially clumsy," etc. For that matter, it is strange that I, a shy person, should write so much in here ... which is why I am going to take a vacation, now, from writing in here, lest I become an oppressive dogmatist. Good bye for now! Never give up the search for improving yourself. -- jer] -- Shyy-Anzr: J. Eric Roskos UUCP: ..!{decvax,ucbvax,ihnp4}!vax135!petsd!peora!jer US Mail: MS 795; Perkin-Elmer SDC; 2486 Sand Lake Road, Orlando, FL 32809-7642 [But, at the time you are reading this, probably in New Jersey]