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From: simpson@lll-crg.ARPA (Rea Simpson)
Newsgroups: net.philosophy,net.religion,net.singles
Subject: Re: Re: marriage = commitment
Message-ID: <701@lll-crg.ARPA>
Date: Wed, 17-Jul-85 16:24:51 EDT
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Posted: Wed Jul 17 16:24:51 1985
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Summary: 

In article <1204@pyuxd.UUCP> rlr@pyuxd.UUCP (Rich Rosen) writes:
>>>I've heard a lot of talk about how getting married can ruin things.  I'm not 
>>>sure I understand this (I have never been married).  What's the big difference
>>>between being married and living together.  I lived with a guy for 1.5 years
>>>and at some points I think it would have been easier if we had been married,
>>>although neither of us was ready for that.  [REA SIMPSON]
>
>> I don't know why  it  happened,  but  when  I  got  married  something
>> changed.  We  both noticed it and had a few minor arguments because of
>> it.  In our case, though, all  it  took  was  to  recognise  what  was
>> happening and make an extra effort to be more tollerent. [ROBERT A. PEASE]
>
>It seems that the worst thing that marriage does to two people is the way
>it makes them take each other for granted.  As if, throughout "courtship",
>they were just playing up their good side, showing off their good points
>and hiding their flaws; but once the rings are exchanged, he's (she's) got
>her (him)!  No longer does either one have to worry about "making a good
>impression" on the other one.  Leave your clothes all over the place,
>don't bother paying any attention to your appearance, be a general slob
>and/or boor, don't bother putting up the front of consideration, etc.
>[RICH ROSEN]

With the divorce rate the way it is I don't really think getting married
means that you've "GOT" them, although I think the point Rich has made
is a valid one.  People do tend to show only their good sides at the beginning
of a relationship.  But don't they become lax (for lack of a better word) as
the relationship continues whether or not the get married?

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				Rea Simpson
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