Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84 exptools; site ihu1e.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxn!ihnp4!ihu1e!mjv From: mjv@ihu1e.UUCP (Vlach) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Question of the hour. (good :-)) Message-ID: <494@ihu1e.UUCP> Date: Thu, 18-Jul-85 13:20:33 EDT Article-I.D.: ihu1e.494 Posted: Thu Jul 18 13:20:33 1985 Date-Received: Sat, 20-Jul-85 07:29:22 EDT References: <5557@cbscc.UUCP> <595@unc.UUCP> <748@ihuxa.UUCP> <15776@watmath.UUCP> Organization: AT&T Bell Laboratories Lines: 23 > I hope I am not the first to be surprised by this > topic (who makes the move and how). I don't think > "the first move" is nearly the issue many of you > make it out to be. As I remember the experience(s) > from my younger days, inviting someone or being > invited isn't a surprise. > > Linda Carson I think you are misinterpreting this 'first move' business. We are not discussing casual conversation where someone all of a sudden knocks you to the floor. There is a big difference between talking and kissing. Two people can be together, and each feel interested in the other, but unless the two of them simultaneously start hugging or kissing, SOMEONE has to make the move first. That is what we are talking about, I think, that first step. Hopefully neither of them is suprised by it. The first move might also pertain to someone asking someone out. Again, hopefully both parties are interested, but somebody has to say something or nothing will happen. (This can be tragic when both people are shy.) In the past men generally made the 'first move'. Hopefully this is changing on a large scale, not just among the women on the net!