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From: mjv@ihu1e.UUCP (Vlach)
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Subject: Re: Aggressiveness, Women, Logic
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Date: Thu, 18-Jul-85 13:56:59 EDT
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Posted: Thu Jul 18 13:56:59 1985
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> 
> Hmmm, I suppose this is true, but I have generally found that women PREFER to
> be the one making the moves.  It just so happens that I am a somewhat
> aggressive male, and many of the women I know and/or have pursued find me
> intimidating.  (I have been told about this directly by close female friends.)
> I know a lot of women claim to want men to make the first move, but in
> practice I find it disturbs many of them. (Of course, some of them think
> it's wonderful!)
> 
> Isaac Dimitrovsky

Me again.  I think this male/female transposing is interesting.  If you
will note, it now says that just because you were somewhat aggressive
towards women, many of them that knew you found you intimidating.  Now, 
because men traditionally have been the aggressors, has that made their 
female acquaintances feel intimidated?  I don't think this in the reverse is 
true.  I did not say that only men I was particularly interested in found me 
intimidating, but many of the men I knew and hung around with.  Because I
was more forward than other women they knew, they were all sort of frightened 
of me, even avoided me.  And I am not talking violently aggressive here.  
If a man sits by a woman, asks her to dance, wants to see her again,
does that frighten her friends?  Do they think he is abnormal?  NO.  This
is considered normal male behavior.

I think it's sort of like this new problem some men have when their wives
earn more $$$ than they do.  Was there ever a problem when men earned more
than their wives?  NO.  Why not?  Same deal, a change in traditional gender
behavior can disturb some people.  Of course all of us on the net are 
different, and well adjusted, right?!?