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From: jay@npois.UUCP (Anton Winteroak)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: re hidden trigger
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Date: Thu, 18-Jul-85 12:48:17 EDT
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Posted: Thu Jul 18 12:48:17 1985
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	There were two instances in which I took up with women that
people confused with my previous SO, on the basis of appearance. In
both cases the previous SO had been a living together type girlfriend
for about two years. In both cases, I didn't really realize it, and in
both cases it happened within a few months of the other relationship
ending.
	I think that the largest factor in the first case was that she
was so similar looking to the XSO that she was something of a curiosity
to me, and I was especially pleasant to her, with all signs of being           
interested (which she took to be just plain interest, and she followed suit.
I rapidly forgot the similarity, and things proceeded.)
	In the second case, I don't think the similarity was all that strong,
but if it means anything as more data, my best friend also was very attacted
to both of these women. (unfortunately, we have had very similar tastes).
	Still, on the subject of hidden triggers, I have always felt that
I was especially attracted to tall, thin, blond, blue eyed women, but
such women make up about 3% of my XSOs. Over 80% are short, dark haired,
brown eyed, women of varying builds, who wear glasses. I've heard it
suggested that I am afraid of being rejected by the Nordic types, but
what ever the reason, there is some trigger that's hidden from me about
who I am attracted to.

	Oh well, not an answer, just more data.