Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/5/84; site randvax.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!allegra!oliveb!hplabs!sdcrdcf!randvax!rohn From: rohn@randvax.UUCP (Laurinda Rohn) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: More women than men Message-ID: <2598@randvax.UUCP> Date: Tue, 16-Jul-85 11:40:59 EDT Article-I.D.: randvax.2598 Posted: Tue Jul 16 11:40:59 1985 Date-Received: Sat, 20-Jul-85 10:04:57 EDT References: <210@cuuxa.UUCP> <462@unc.UUCP> Reply-To: rohn@rand-unix.UUCP (Laurinda Rohn) Organization: Rand Corp., Santa Monica Lines: 43 Summary: In article <1258@peora.UUCP> jer@peora.UUCP (J. Eric Roskos) writes: >>Ross, I really hope there was supposed to be a :-) after the above >>paragraph and you just forgot it. I find it difficult (as well as >>distressing) to believe that you are *that* insensitive and chauvin- >>istic. Believe or not, women *do* live for something besides men. > >Now, I think you have grossly misinterpreted Ross here. When he said, > >>>Women, on the other hand, had more men after them then they could possibly >>>handle: generally turning down more dates than they accepted. So breaking >>>up from a not-so-perfect relationship did not mean that they were to >>>be lonely on friday night. And so breaking up was not such a big deal. > >he was referring to the MALE person being lonely on a friday night. I don't know. I still think he meant the females not being lonely on Friday night. >Personally, I think Ross was basically right; and >I think it based on my own observations of other people. I think it tends >to be easier, in today's society, for the female-person to go looking for >the start of a new relationship while maintaining the old one than for the >male-person to do so, simply because this looking requires very little >effort, relatively, compared to the extensive trial-and-rejection approach >required of male people. This is just one of the basic, fundamental diff- >erences between male-people and female-people in today's society. I don't really disagree with this. What really made me angry was the way Ross phrased part of his posting. I interpreted his statements as saying that when a woman has another man interested in her in addition to the one she is currently involved with, that breaking up is "not such a big deal." I still think that was a very insensitive thing to say. Breaking up, for most people with any feelings at all, is *ALWAYS* painful, whether or not there is another party waiting on the sidelines. It *is* a big deal. Lauri rohn@rand-unix.ARPA ..decvax!randvax!rohn "I told you when I met you I was crazy..."