Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84 exptools; site whuts.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxt!houxm!whuxl!whuts!amc From: amc@whuts.UUCP (COHILL) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: More women than men Message-ID: <181@whuts.UUCP> Date: Fri, 19-Jul-85 14:42:54 EDT Article-I.D.: whuts.181 Posted: Fri Jul 19 14:42:54 1985 Date-Received: Sat, 20-Jul-85 11:57:36 EDT References: <210@cuuxa.UUCP> <462@unc.UUCP> Organization: AT&T Bell Laboratories Lines: 24 *** *** Ross Greenberg seems to have hit a raw nerve with his statement about the relative advantages that men and women have when it comes to breaking up. I have to agree with him. Someone else said it, and I am going to say it again. Women, even when they are involved in a relationship, have the opportunity to gauge what their social life will be like *after* the break-up, just by judging how often they get asked out by men. Presumably, they will be turning all these men down while still involved. Men, since they are rarely asked out by women, have no way of gauging how successful they will be with other women after a break-up, short of asking women out while still involved, which is rarely practical. I did not think that Ross was making any sweeping statements about the emotional cost of break-ups, or who is "more lonely." This advantage will disappear when a majority of women get up enough nerve to find out what rejection is like, by asking guys out. In my opinion, this is about twenty-five years away. People just don't change that fast.... Andy Cohill {allegra|ihnp4}whuts!amc