Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site unc.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!philabs!cmcl2!seismo!harvard!think!mit-eddie!genrad!decvax!mcnc!unc!fsks From: fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann) Newsgroups: net.singles,net.social Subject: Re: Salemanship (Warning: long, but entertaining!) Message-ID: <626@unc.UUCP> Date: Thu, 18-Jul-85 12:43:22 EDT Article-I.D.: unc.626 Posted: Thu Jul 18 12:43:22 1985 Date-Received: Sat, 20-Jul-85 18:01:51 EDT References: <968@peora.UUCP> <1424@mtx5b.UUCP> Reply-To: fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann) Organization: CS Dept., U. of N. Carolina at Chapel Hill Lines: 35 Xref: linus net.singles:6992 net.social:784 Frank Silbermann: >> But I believe you should try to emphasize your most attractive qualities >> and distract attention from your faults as much as possible. These will >> come out soon enough anyway. But why expose them to someone before >> that person has first had a chance to appreciate your good points? J. Eric Roskos: > However, personally I believe in ``modesty'' and ``humility'' instead. >If you go around saying "I am X" and "I am Y," where X and Y are your most >appealing attributes, and someone is attracted to these ... well, supposing >you are right, and these are indeed your most appealing attributes... >then what is left for the person to discover? It is all downhill from there. >I would think that a relationship built on your humbler attributes, and merely >fortified by your more spectacular ones, would be a much more durable one. > >It is strange that I, a shy person, should write so much in here ... >which is why I am going to take a vacation, now, from writing in here, >lest I become an oppressive dogmatist. > J. Eric Roskos > 2486 Sand Lake Road, Orlando, FL 32809-7642 ^^ > [But, at the time you are reading this, probably in New Jersey] ^^^^^^^^^^ Suppose it turns out that your more spectacular attributes are NOT important to your new SO, after all. What you now have is a woman who doesn't appreciate your strong points, but accepts you despite your weak ones, because, after all, she isn't such a great catch, either. I would expect such backward reasoning from someone who WORKS IN FLORIDA, and then goes to NEW JERSEY ON VACATION! Just kidding, Eric :-). Frank Silbermann