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From: adams@plx.UUCP (Robert Adams)
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Subject: Re: Re: marriage = commitment
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>> I've heard a lot of talk about how getting married can ruin things.  I'm not 
>> sure I understand this (I have never been married). What's the big difference
>> between being married and living together.
>> 				Rea Simpson
> 
> 	It seems to me that the subject line, "marriage = commitment",
> just about says it all. When a couple is only living together, their
> commitment to one another must in a sense be renewed daily. There is
> no implication of permanence in the arrangement.
> ...
> -  From the Crow's Nest  -                      Kenn Barry

My experience with "marriage ruining things" has not to do
with the "commitment" involved but with the baggage that the culture
adds to a marriage.  When two are living together they are equal
partners -- if both are working, they expect to keep working.
Once married, though, there is the role of the stay at home
house wife that is now a possibility.  These things that "hang on"
the roles associated with a marriage cause most of the tension
that can destroy a relationship that was once "good" before the
marriage.

   ..!{decvax,ucbvax}!sun!plx!adams             -- Robert Adams