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From: beslove@osu-eddie.UUCP (Adam Beslove)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Just how far can friendship go? - deviding line submitted
Message-ID: <469@osu-eddie.UUCP>
Date: Thu, 18-Jul-85 14:13:55 EDT
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Posted: Thu Jul 18 14:13:55 1985
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Reply-To: beslove@osu-eddie.UUCP (Adam Beslove)
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In article <342@azure.UUCP> chrisa@azure.UUCP (Chris Andersen) writes:
>In article <226@uwvax.UUCP> matt@uwvax.UUCP (Matt Thurmaier) writes:

>This may sound old-fashioned, but the "Sexual Revolution" notwithstanding, I
>think 'The Act', or the possibility thereof, separates friendship and SOship
>for most people.  

I can't agree with this at all.  I have trouble remembering how many times
I've preformed 'The Act' with women I hardly knew or hardly liked.  Sex is
just physics.  

SO-ships don't have to include 'The Act'.  What about the traditional
'virgins until the wedding night'?  Would you assume that all of these folks
aren't SO's before the consumation of their marriage?  I think most of this
discussion has been viewing SO-ship as though it were a homoginized state,
not as an evolving symbiosis.  

Where is the dividing line?  There are many.  I've always found it to be an
unspoken agreement represented by some gesture such as a look or or a smile,
a hug or a discovery by one about the other.  The question: "Do you like Ayn
Rand?" once catapulted me into a very long and intense relationship when I
answered "Yes".  A probing conversation had led up to that question, but
that was the clincher. 

From this I generalize that the dividing line is heralded by gestures
marking gradations approaching the dividing gesture.  These gestures might
superficially mean something completely different, but the @i(way) they are
preformed sets them apart.

>>>>Adam Beslove    (c)1985     (aka Odious Verity)
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