Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/5/84; site randvax.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!allegra!oliveb!hplabs!sdcrdcf!randvax!edhall From: edhall@randvax.UUCP (Ed Hall) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: More women than men Message-ID: <2605@randvax.UUCP> Date: Sat, 20-Jul-85 19:03:35 EDT Article-I.D.: randvax.2605 Posted: Sat Jul 20 19:03:35 1985 Date-Received: Mon, 22-Jul-85 20:21:28 EDT References: <210@cuuxa.UUCP> <462@unc.UUCP> Reply-To: edhall@rand-unix.UUCP (Ed Hall) Organization: Rand Corp., Santa Monica Lines: 30 Keywords: egotism, chauvinism Summary: > >In conclusion, I'd like to contradict Ross & Co. with the observation > >that almost all women I've known who have broken up a relationship > >have done it for one reason: disillusionment, and with the observation > >that men, not women, tend to be the ones who need someone ``waiting in > >the wings'' before they are willing to have things break up. > > > > I seem to notice a contradiction here, Ed. What I've been stating is that > men, having to be the initiators and having to be the rejectee, are less > likely to have "someone waiting in the wings". Women, as I have earlier > stated, would have an easier time finding someone (if they don't already > have the wing-waiter). > > Ross M. Greenberg @ Time Inc, New York I think you are overestimating the hassle of being the "initiator" (though for some of us it is a lot more of a hassle than for most). Just about every case of a man breaking up with a woman, rather than vice versa, that I've observed or heard of, the man started "initiating" elsewhere first, and made his move after he had an alternative lined up. Most of the effort that goes into finding a good relationship--for either men or women--is not in finding someone to initiate to or to give an initiation, but in working out all that comes afterwards into a compatible state. Even if you were right, and the average woman has a line of ten men waiting for her (which is emphatically Not True in Real Life), the chance of the *right* one being amongst them is certainly no greater than the chance that any of them have lined up for the *right* woman. -Ed