Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/5/84; site oliven.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!allegra!oliveb!oliven!rap From: rap@oliven.UUCP (Robert A. Pease) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: More women than men (really who initiates things) Message-ID: <364@oliven.UUCP> Date: Sun, 21-Jul-85 16:20:08 EDT Article-I.D.: oliven.364 Posted: Sun Jul 21 16:20:08 1985 Date-Received: Mon, 22-Jul-85 20:21:52 EDT References: <210@cuuxa.UUCP> <462@unc.UUCP> Organization: Olivetti ATC; Cupertino, Ca Lines: 40 > In article <484@ihu1e.UUCP> mjv@ihu1e.UUCP (Vlach) writes: >+- >| ... I have generally found that men PREFER to >| be the one making the moves. >| >| I know a lot of men claim to want women to make the first move, but in >| practice I find it disturbs many of them. (Of course, some of them think >| it's wonderful!) >| >| Some ideas about this: either men are just used to being the aggressor, or >| perhaps they like to feel like a conquering hero? Dunno. >+- > Sure, some men are used to being the aggressor/conquering hero, > just look at the role models we get: Indiana Jones, Luke Skywalker, > James Bond, the various John Wayne stuff, Conan, etc. > > Others of us (including me) prefer it when both parties contribute. > Somewhere on the order of 50/50. For one thing, it provides a nice > feedback mechanism. Asking the guy out, initiating the first kiss, > or undoing that first button says a lot more than passively going along > with whatever the guy gets up the nerve for. > Snoopy > tektronix!hammer!seifert I agree. I want the woman I'm out with to be a little agressive, but if she is to agressive then I don't know how to respond. I don't have that much experience with strongly agressive women to know what to do. Most men don't. As a result, how can you blame us for being caught off balance. On the other hand, when I've been out with a woman who is totally passive, I don't know if she likes me or not. If I make a move to hug or kiss her and she is passive about it I have no feedback, just as Snoopy refered to. My only conclusion is that she doesn't really care about me, what I'm doing with her and maybe even herself. I don't like that. I'd rather have her say no. -- Robert A. Pease {hplabs|zehntel|fortune|ios|tolerant|allegra|tymix}!oliveb!oliven!rap