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From: simpson@lll-crg.ARPA (Rea Simpson)
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Subject: Re: Risk of rejection
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Date: Sun, 21-Jul-85 20:48:46 EDT
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Posted: Sun Jul 21 20:48:46 1985
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In article <3153@decwrl.UUCP> jackson@curium.DEC (Seth Jackson) writes:
>>You decide that you like the potential MOTAS quite a bit, in fact
>>you wouldn't mind snuggling a bit, maybe even getting on to the
>>dirty deed.
>> 
>>So what do you do?
>> 
>>If you are a man, generally speaking, you attempt a kiss or other
>>physical contact.  If you get rebuked, then oh-well.....
>> 
>>If you are a women, generally speaking, you decide that if the guy
>>that you are with attempts a kiss or other physical contact, that you
>>won't rebuke him!  Big risk, eh?
> 
>
>Well, not exactly. You see, I don't like getting rebuked very much,
>so I don't usually try kissing or physical contact unless I have
>a pretty good idea that this is what the woman wants also. Through
>experience, I have learned to look for telltale signals, such as
>her longing glances or "accidental" brushing up against me.
>
>Thus, women don't simply wait for the guy to kiss her. If she 
>wants to be kissed, she can (and often does) offer strong 
>encouragement to her shy gentleman, and fall far short of 
>jumping him.
>
>The man still has to take some risk of rejection, but, hey,
>c'est la vie!
>__
>
>"Don't shake the tree when the fruit ain't ripe!"
>
>				Seth Jackson
>				dec-curium!jackson

Seth's got it right.  My way of "being aggressive" is acting as described above.
In my case I think I usually make the first physical contact in a situation and
I don't think that this is unusual (think about it guys).  It's usually the
"accidental brushing" or leaning over and touching him when I say something,
especially if we're in a noisy place.  I think that we woman ususually give
you guys enough signs so that you know whether we want to be "kissed or not".

I don't know if I'd be brave enough to actually give the first kiss (at least
I wasn't late night).  I did once in high school but this guy was really really
shy and that made me a little more confident I guess. 	

 
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				Rea Simpson
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