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From: bob@nbires.UUCP (Bob Bruck)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: "dead fish" handshakes given by males to females
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Date: Mon, 22-Jul-85 17:50:55 EDT
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unixcorn wrote:
> OFTEN FORGOTTEN THAT IT IS SUPPOSED TO BE THE WOMAN'S PEROGATIVE to initiate
> the hand shake when being introduced to a new male.
> If she doesn't put her hand out to be shaken, you (males) are not
> supposed to push yours out there ( or worse yet, grab hers)
> 
>   She is supposed to decide if that contact is desired and if not, it
> should not be 'pushed' on her. 

What?! I am not allowed to initiate a handshake with a woman to  whom I was
just introduced???  Perhapse I am a bit old fashioned (NOT read "old"), but
I feel about handshakes the way a lot of people in this net feel about HUGs.
It is a socially acceptable way for me to have physical contact with others,
male or female, without any implication of sexual intimacy (I am not sure I
am ready to  disassociate HUGs with sexual or family intimacy).

The hand is a VERY sensitive and communicative part of our body, and I enjoy
the privilege of embracing another person's hand in my own with a handshake.
Since I do not (yet?) feel comfortable initiating hugs with aquaintances
(or even male friends), please don't tell me that I'm not allowed to initiate
a handshake.  

					Bob Bruck
					NBI, Inc.  Boulder, Co.
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