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From: rap@oliven.UUCP (Robert A. Pease)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Aggressiveness
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Date: Sun, 21-Jul-85 23:12:09 EDT
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Posted: Sun Jul 21 23:12:09 1985
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> Exactly. I am so tired of women whining about how men can't fulfill
> their "needs", and they are in fact unable or unwilling to express
> them. I accept full responsibility if I am not contributing my share
> to the relationship, but more than once, I've had a woman announce
> "Things are over.." and walk out with even explaining what she
> thought was wrong.

This gets me POed too!  Before my wife left me  I  had  no  idea  that
there  was  any  problems  between  us.  When  I found out there was a
problem, she refused to talk about it by telling me that  she  had  to
think about her feelings before she decided what to do.  I had to yell
at her that she was  being  unfair  to  me  by  not  allowing  me  the
oppertunity  to  do something to correct things before she would agree
to try again.  And yes, I had to yell.  It was  the  intensity  of  my
emotion that showed itself as yelling that was the only thing that got
through to her.

The point?  The point is that she insisted that I tell her immediately
when  there  was  something  that  I  was unhappy about, no matter how
small.  I didn't even have the time to figure out wether or not I  was
really upset.  Now, I have a roommate that tells me one of the biggest
reasons she always got so upset with her ex-husband is that he refused
to  talk  to her about his feelings.  In fact, we just had an argument
the other day and she yells at me, "Why didn't you say anything to  me
before?"  My  only answer was, and could have been, "This is the first
time I got angry about it."  For this I got condemmed.
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					Robert A. Pease
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