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From: jeand@ihlpg.UUCP (AMBAR)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Can friendship go to HUGGING?
Message-ID: <930@ihlpg.UUCP>
Date: Tue, 23-Jul-85 15:36:46 EDT
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Posted: Tue Jul 23 15:36:46 1985
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> Hugs, hug parties, propriety of hugs, relationship between hugs and
> dirty deeds, asking before giving hugs, gaaa.
> 
> 			 <enter preach mode>  
>...
> 	Share activities, whether work or play.
> 	Put in a good deed, whether saving someone's life or merely 
> 		coming up with the correct, straight-man response at 
> 		the point of the joke.
> Live a life that includes good times with others, and you don't need
> to manufacture reasons.
> 			  <exit preach mode>
> Oded Feingold				{decvax, harvard}!mitvax!oaf

I think perhaps some of us are working on manufacturing ways and means
for relating with others.  Scientists and engineers are (in)famous for
relating better with their computer terminal (oops, my youth is showing--or
slide rule) than with people.
I see here people who recognize this, and want to change.  
I see here people who have been where I'm going, and who are going where I've
been.
I see people who are now learning the social language that 'the others' were
learning in junior high, and who won't let themselves be stuck in a rut,
people who are willing to take the risk of change.
This is marvelous.
This is what this group is all about.
And I think we're teaching each other 'where it's at', and 'what it's all
about.'
To relate this to the quote ("You mean I HAVE to relate this???"), I'm
just trying to say that I'm learning how.  Sometimes we get beyond 'wht
is properly done when', and say 'why?'.  Or, even more often, 'why not?'
If I can give a friend (same sex, opposite sex, WHO CARES???) an affectionate
hug, without raising expectations I cannot fulfill, I will.  It's that
simple.
<Is this *prose*???  Naaah, can't be.  I'm a *CS* major!>

***Disclaimer***
This is not a flame on someone's viewpoint--not even a mild one.
I just started thinking about the purpose and spirit of what we're doing
here........and how I saw it.
(maybe I should have included a *preach warning*!)
Take care,

-- 
					AMBAR
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