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From: scj@hlwpb.UUCP (S.C. Jones)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: "dead fish" handshakes given by males to females
Message-ID: <353@hlwpb.UUCP>
Date: Wed, 24-Jul-85 12:24:25 EDT
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Posted: Wed Jul 24 12:24:25 1985
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> In article <698@lll-crg.ARPA> bandy@lll-crg.UUCP (Andrew Scott Beals) writes:
> >In some random article or another, someone female says that she hates
> >"dead fish" handshakes given by males and goes on to say that they should
> >leave a "good indication of their presence" (paraphrased) and not treat her
> >like china. [what annoys me are men who shake my hand like a dead fish...]
> >
> >Of course, the degree of firmness that can be given without pain varies
> >widely from person to person (with a good metric being that women can
> >tolerate a good deal less squeeze (or perhaps the men are all being macho
> >and just aren't complaining)), and I don't really want to hurt anyone, but
> >being that I'm not Emily Post, I shall bow to her:
> >
> >[taken from chapter 3, "How do you do?"--Greetings]
> >
> >Personality of a handshake
> >
> 
>   What really irritates me is that (in a social situation at least) IT IS
> OFTEN FORGOTTEN THAT IT IS SUPPOSED TO BE THE WOMAN'S PEROGATIVE to initiate
> the hand shake when being introduced to a new male.
> If she doesn't put her hand out to be shaken, you (males) are not
> supposed to push yours out there ( or worse yet, grab hers)
> 
>   She is supposed to decide if that contact is desired and if not, it
> should not be 'pushed' on her. 
> 
>   I assume in a business situation it is better to be ready to shake 
> hands with 'anyone'. Then you hope for a decent firm (non-bone crushing)
> grip.
> 
> PS I know a lot of older people (and others) with arthritis who 
> would prefer gentle firmness to macho clamping any day.
> -- 
> 
>              unixcorn  (alias m. gould)
> 
>                    "there's a unicorn in the garden and he's eating a lily"
>                     gatech!dcc1!unixcorn

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