Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site unc.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!ucbvax!decvax!mcnc!unc!fsks From: fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: More women than men Message-ID: <7@unc.UUCP> Date: Mon, 22-Jul-85 23:26:33 EDT Article-I.D.: unc.7 Posted: Mon Jul 22 23:26:33 1985 Date-Received: Thu, 25-Jul-85 07:20:56 EDT References: <589@unc.UUCP> <604@unc.UUCP> <2370@ut-sally.UUCP> Reply-To: fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann) Organization: CS Dept., U. of N. Carolina at Chapel Hill Lines: 24 In article simpson@lll-crg.UUCP (Rea simpson) writes: > I think that it's normal to try and find out if someone is taken >before you ask them out. That's my biggest worry when I'm trying to get up >the courage to approach a guy and ask him out. I'm not sure why I worry >about this so much but I do. I do not belong to a large social clique, and I don't meet many women through my occupation. If I meet a woman who attracts me, I must seize the moment, for otherwise, who knows when or if I'll ever see her again. So, after striking up a conversation, I try to arrange a future meeting (ususally something light, like lunch or tennis). My plan is to hope we hit it off as we get to know each other better. If the woman has an SO already, often she does not tell me until after I try to arrange the meeting. Sometimes, she doesn't even tell me then, waiting until I ask her out for an evening date. I assume that this is a lie sometimes, i.e. a "painless" way to reject me, but most of the time it is probably the truth. How could I possibly find out beforehand whether the woman already has a boyfriend? Should I just "ask her" while making small talk? How does one work this into the conversation? Frank Silbermann