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From: hoff@ihuxa.UUCP (GYPSY)
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Subject: Re: Emotions and choice
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Date: Tue, 23-Jul-85 23:34:57 EDT
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> > 	Forgive me if I seemed to be speaking of "someone hitting me
> > over the head with a hammer and I can choose to feel pain or not."
> > Did anyone else get that impression from my first article?  <-- from me
> 
> Yes, but that's the impression I get so often from those who claim to be
> in charge of their own everything (from the way they sound).  A for
> instance:  what about someone who was brought up in a violent home who
> now reacts to marital disagreement through violence, as learned in
> childhood?  Does that person react through "choice"?  Remember, it's
> not a black or white situation where "if you don't take 'responsibility'
> for your emotions, it means you're 'giving' responsibility to someone
> else".  In the case above, the "responsibility" lies with the circumstances
> of one's life, out of one's personal control, not with particular people
> who probably were in the same boat.
> 					Rich Rosen    ihnp4!pyuxd!rlr

	Yes, that person reacts through choice.  

	Funny you should bring the "growing up with violence" situation.
As my friends here know I grew up in that situation.  And I've been
married.  And I was hit when I was married.  And I GOT OUT OF THE MARRIAGE
WITHOUT ONE PUNCH FROM ME..... my choice.

	Anything else?  If you care to know further details, send me
e-mail.  I have discussed enough of my background in these few sentences here.

				Gypsy (Julie Hoff)  ...ihnp4!ihuxa!hoff