Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/5/84; site tove.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!philabs!cmcl2!seismo!umcp-cs!tove!dsn From: dsn@tove.UUCP (Dana S. Nau) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: when to look around? Message-ID: <279@tove.UUCP> Date: Tue, 23-Jul-85 22:28:59 EDT Article-I.D.: tove.279 Posted: Tue Jul 23 22:28:59 1985 Date-Received: Thu, 25-Jul-85 21:02:12 EDT References: <210@cuuxa.UUCP> <462@unc.UUCP> Reply-To: dsn@tove.UUCP (Dana S. Nau) Organization: U of Maryland, Laboratory for Parallel Computation, C.P., MD Lines: 31 In article <181@whuts.UUCP> amc@whuts.UUCP (COHILL) writes: >Women, even when they are involved in a relationship, have the >opportunity to gauge what their social life will be like *after* the >break-up, just by judging how often they get asked out by men. I don't want to start another discussion about who (if anyone) has it easier, but I think there are ways for BOTH men and women to look around and get some idea what opportunities they might have after breaking up. For example, in a previous posting someone mentioned "non-date dates". This brings up an interesting issue: Presumably when two people are casually involved, it's OK to "look around"; i.e., to consider what other options they might have for romantic involvements. And presumably, when two people are in a really close relationship (for example, if they are engaged), such behavior is--if not unethical--quite surprising. When is it appropriate to look around? I imagine the answer will be different for different people, just as the answer to "when is someone an SO?" was different for different people. I wonder how many misunderstandings and hurt feelings arise from such differing points of view. Part of why this has occurred to me is that I'm beginning to suspect that my girlfriend may not ever want what I would consider a really close relationship, and I'm (sigh) trying to decide whether or not to do some looking around. -- Dana S. Nau, Computer Science Dept., U. of Maryland, College Park, MD 20742 ARPA: dsn@maryland CSNet: dsn@umcp-cs UUCP: {seismo,allegra,brl-bmd}!umcp-cs!dsn Phone: (301) 454-7932