Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site pyuxd.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!gamma!pyuxww!pyuxd!rlr From: rlr@pyuxd.UUCP (Rich Rosen) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Emotions and choice Message-ID: <1308@pyuxd.UUCP> Date: Wed, 24-Jul-85 19:18:49 EDT Article-I.D.: pyuxd.1308 Posted: Wed Jul 24 19:18:49 1985 Date-Received: Thu, 25-Jul-85 22:38:04 EDT References: <5557@cbscc.UUCP> <591@unc.UUCP> Organization: Whatever we're calling ourselves this week Lines: 32 >>> Forgive me if I seemed to be speaking of "someone hitting me >>> over the head with a hammer and I can choose to feel pain or not." >>> Did anyone else get that impression from my first article? [HOFF] >>Yes, but that's the impression I get so often from those who claim to be >>in charge of their own everything (from the way they sound). A for >>instance: what about someone who was brought up in a violent home who >>now reacts to marital disagreement through violence, as learned in >>childhood? Does that person react through "choice"? Remember, it's >>not a black or white situation where "if you don't take 'responsibility' >>for your emotions, it means you're 'giving' responsibility to someone >>else". In the case above, the "responsibility" lies with the circumstances >>of one's life, out of one's personal control, not with particular people >>who probably were in the same boat. [ROSEN] > Yes, that person reacts through choice. Proof by assertion? Seriously, just because your circumstances allowed to (see below) to escape that behavior, can you lay blame at the doorstep of those who have not had such opportunistic circumstances for their condition? To do so sounds awful selfcentered and vindictive. > Funny you should bring the "growing up with violence" situation. > As my friends here know I grew up in that situation. And I've been > married. And I was hit when I was married. And I GOT OUT OF THE MARRIAGE > WITHOUT ONE PUNCH FROM ME..... my choice. Glad you had such fortuitous circumstances. Does that imply that anyone who was in the same boat you were has a "choice" like you had? -- "Meanwhile, I was still thinking..." Rich Rosen ihnp4!pyuxd!rlr