Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site phri.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!philabs!cmcl2!seismo!harvard!talcott!panda!genrad!decvax!tektronix!uw-beaver!cornell!vax135!timeinc!phri!lonetto From: lonetto@phri.UUCP (Michael Lonetto) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: More women than men Message-ID: <340@phri.UUCP> Date: Mon, 22-Jul-85 18:05:24 EDT Article-I.D.: phri.340 Posted: Mon Jul 22 18:05:24 1985 Date-Received: Fri, 26-Jul-85 03:24:20 EDT References: <210@cuuxa.UUCP> <462@unc.UUCP> Organization: Public Health Research Inst. (NY, NY) Lines: 27 > I interpreted his statements as > saying that when a woman has another man interested in her in addition > to the one she is currently involved with, that breaking up is "not > such a big deal." I still think that was a very insensitive thing to > say. Breaking up, for most people with any feelings at all, is > *ALWAYS* painful, whether or not there is another party waiting on the > sidelines. It *is* a big deal. > > Lauri This is a little more like it. My SO of 6 years ago has never since I've known her (>10 yrs) left anyone without having someone waiting. She still finds it *VERY* hard, but having someone else there cushions the blow enough for her to follow through. Still, she tends towards longterm relationships which are most often monogamous, she just hates to be *alone*. I haven't met anyone else who follows this pattern so strictly, but I think it's easier for *anyone* to leave something gone bad when at least there's the possibility of something better (instead of choosing between a bad relationship and cold feet at night :-)). -- ____________________ Michael Lonetto Public Health Research Institute, 455 1st Ave, NY, NY 10016 (allegra!phri!lonetto) "BUY ART, NOT COCAINE"