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From: chrisa@azure.UUCP (Chris Andersen)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Side-issue on agressiveness
Message-ID: <380@azure.UUCP>
Date: Thu, 25-Jul-85 23:16:13 EDT
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Posted: Thu Jul 25 23:16:13 1985
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In article <6394@ucla-cs.ARPA> mccolm@ucla-cs.UUCP writes:
>
>A former SO once told me that she fantasized about seducing likely males
>quite often, and only *very* rarely fantasized about being seduced by them.
>Conversations (based on a sample size that wouldn't tax two hands to count)
>with other women appear to bear this out, on first impression.  Furthermore,
>conversations with men (based on even smaller sample sizes) seem to bear out
>their fantasizing about being seduced, rather than doing the seducing.
>
>If this is borne out in general (biiiig stretch), does this mean that the
>socially acceptable men-do-the-asking-and-women-do-the-answering is not only
>not the only way things can happen, but actually less preferable than the
>reverse?  Are the mating games among humans screwed up at so basic a level?

SET amateur-psychiatrist mode = on

I think it's more likely that people are just fantasizing about what they 
don't have instead of fantasizing about what they *really* need.

That is, if the situation were reversed in society today (females dominate over
males) then you might find the females having more fantasies about being 
seduced while the males are the ones who dream about seducing.

SET amateur-psychiatrist mode = off

But then again, what do I know?  I'm only a wimp.   :-)


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