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From: hoff@ihuxa.UUCP (GYPSY)
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Subject: Re: Hurting the other by a "no"
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Date: Sun, 28-Jul-85 16:31:00 EDT
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Posted: Sun Jul 28 16:31:00 1985
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> 
> I argue that no one has complete control of
> his or her emotional reactions, and moreover, that it is unhealthy
> to seek control.
> 
> What disturbs me most about this school of thinking that
> you appear to be espousing is that when you claim Joe has
> complete responsibility for his emotions, you are freeing yourself
> from any responsibility for them, thereby leaving yourself
> free to hurt him with impunity.
> 
> Pooh
> 

1.  Gee, I didn't know I as so insensitive and NEVER was gentle with
	others feelings.... I've been fooled all these years?

2.  I didn't know I had said that people are in FULL control of their emotions.

3.  If to seek control is unhealthy
	a)  I want to meet the trained psychologist that told you this
	b)  I think you just put ALL psychologist/psychiatrists
		out of work, I wonder if they know that.

Hey, gang, you decide as to which school of thought you belong to.

			Gypsy (Julie Hoff)  ....ihnp4!ihuxa!hoff