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From: hoff@ihuxa.UUCP (GYPSY)
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Subject: Re: Hurting the other by a "no"
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Date: Sun, 28-Jul-85 17:04:02 EDT
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> > My first reaction is                                    <--- from Greg Woods
> > to say "suffer if you want to" or in some more stubborn cases, "suffer
> > if you insist upon it because you seem to believe that you *have* to feel
> > bad about this", but that sounds very cold, which I'm really not...
> 
> Your right, Greg, it does sound cold.  I will agree that a strong person has
> the ability to control her/his emotions, but I am not sure it is a wise per-
> son that does so.
> 					Bob Bruck
> 					NBI Inc.  Boulder, Co.
> 					(hao | allegra | ...)!nbires!bob

	I need this book or this person who has told you that control of
emotions is not healthy.  I've got 40+ books on the shelf behind me
right now that says it is healthy and 3+ psychologists at my disposal
that will agree.  If you have source, PLEASE post/e-mail the title/name.

		Gypsy (Julie Hoff)  ...ihnp4!ihuxa!hoff