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From: pooh@ut-sally.UUCP (Pooh @ the Utility Muffin Research Kitchen)
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Subject: Re: BEING RESPONSIBLE
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Date: Mon, 29-Jul-85 10:41:57 EDT
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> > Do not be so presumptuous as to
> > expect everyone else to work the same way.
> 
>   I expect nothing. I merely point out that "how you work" is your choice.
> And since it *is* a choice, you are free to "work" any way you want.

This is exactly what I mean.  You believe that "how you
work" is your choice, and that the same goes for everyone
else.  I say that you are forcing your beliefs on someone
else.

>   I avoid use of the word "fault", since that would imply a negative judgment
> which is not present. There is a vast difference between "blame" and 
> "responsibility".The latter does not involve any good/bad judgments. In fact, 
> I *have* cheered up depressed friends by pointing out that it is not necessary
> for them to be depressed, and just "being there" for them (which is somewhat
> difficult to do over the net, or even over the phone). 

I would argue that you did much more for them by being
there and NOT questioning their feelings (just accepting
them, not saying "you could be doing this another way")
than by pointing out that their feelings are "unnecessary."

> The more people that really see that they have full
> control over their emotional reactions, the less pain there will be in this
> world.

1)  Again, people do NOT have full control over their
    emotional reactions.

2)  If you try to eradicate pain, you will wipe out half of
    human experience.  

Why don't you try letting someone else be right about how 
he lives, and not try to push your religion on him as
The Truth?

Pooh

pooh@purdue-ecn-cb.ARPA      pur-ee!pooh

Any way the wind blows. . .